Since I decided I wanted to be a coach, I have been grasping at what straws trying to figure out what it was that I wanted to do. I figured out pretty early on that career and leadership coaching just weren't my cup of tea. I know so many fabulous coaches in those arenas that faking it until I make it just didn't make any sense to me. So I continued to think about it...
and think about it....
and think about it....
And the thing that I keep coming back to -- the thing that I really feel like I speak most to and can really help people with is building a new life after divorce. It sounds cliche but the first night that I sat alone in my house, the first night I spent without my then husband...I truly thought that was it. That I would just be bidding my time until all was said and done. Eventually though, I picked myself up off the floor, had a boat load of bad dates, gave all of myself to a relationship that wasn't meant to be and created very clear intentions of what I wanted my life to look like. And, I am thrilled to say, that it truly does. But how can I help other people find that path? I love one on one coaching but I am not sure that's the most effective way to go about this. Not that I don't want to do it but I am not focusing on it -- when it comes, it will come.
I have participated in a few eCourses and have gotten a lot out of them...so it dawned on me during dinner last week with a friend...why not create and lead your own eCourse. I am a trainer by training -- this is something about which I am passionate and I think it would be a boat load of fun.
When you find yourself divorced in your mid-30s, you are presented with so many options. In a lot of ways, I think you have more options than you did when you were younger...you have some maturity, experience and perspective that you didn't have before and you have options. Options, options, options.
Do you want to marry again? Do you want to have a family? Do you want to move some place entirely new? Do you want a new career? Do you want to travel? Do you want to write a book? Do you have no blessed clue what you want to do?
All of those options are open to you but it is really tough to jump from deciding to end your marriage into the new life you imagined. There is work to be done to close your previous relationship. There are lessons to be processed, there is self-discovery to pursue and there is new and unimagined joy to be found.
So with that I am in the throes of putting together an eCourse for 2011...it doesn't have a name but it has a framework and I'm so excited to get started with it!
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