Last Saturday I went out for dinner and coffee with a newish friend and it was among the loveliest of nights I have had in a long time. It is really great to just talk to someone and connect. But this post isn't so much about that. It's about something that has kept coming up in my life over the last few months. It's a seed of an idea that has been growing.
No new great can come if you aren't willing to say yes to something new.
I see so many people in my life for whom this seems to be the bedrock of where they are and it certainly is for me. Seven years ago, I quit a high powered job that made me miserable to go to Utah and sell tickets at the Sundance Film Festival. I had some money in the bank and I knew I needed something new and different in my life so I packed my little Prius and drove to Utah to spend a month that would be life changing. I was terrified but excited about all that may be new in my life. I went to Utah to make a break from a romantic relationship that was tearing me apart. I went to Utah to bust out of my comfort zone.
In many ways, where I am right now is not very different from where I was then with the exception of now I get unemployment. But somehow this period of joblessness feels scarier than that one. Which I am finding utterly fascinating. Right now I am so much more secure in who I am and what I want. Right now I am not trying to get out of a relationship that is tearing me apart. Right now I am not trying to break out of my comfort zone because I am getting quite comfortable with stepping out of it.
Seven years has made a tremendous difference in my life and yet I also know that it isn't the 7 years so much as it is minute by minute, day by day where the real changes come. Being willing to say yes to something new and different is the only thing that can open up new and great for you. It's the only thing that can allow you to find new and wonderful happiness if you are willing to see it.
I haven't hit all of my goals - clearly. I'd love to have a job I love again. There are some logistics that I would like to fall into place. But just knowing that I am saying yes to new things helps me know that new great is happening.
* "Yes To You (Tappan Zee)" - Susan Werner